Last Updated on April 11, 2023 by Sarah Smith
10 tips for passionate sex & slow love making
Slow love making is an art, and not everyone is a master. But you can learn and while there are many ways to have great sex, one thing remains true: It’s not always easy or perfect! That said, let’s talk about some tips that can help you get started on your path toward passionate love making.
Slow down first.
As a general rule of thumb, slow down first. When you’re in the moment and feeling it, focus on what’s happening. Don’t worry about whether or not you’ll get to orgasm—just enjoy the experience for what it is: two people connecting on a level that can only be understood when there’s no clock ticking away in your brain telling you how long things should last.
Avoid alcohol and drugs.
- Avoid alcohol and drugs. As you may have guessed from the title of this section, these are two things that can seriously impede your ability to be responsive during sex.
- Don’t get drunk before having sex with someone you’re dating or sleeping with. Alcohol has a tendency to make people less responsive, act rashly and say things they don’t mean. It also makes it harder for them to slow down and think about what they are doing in bed—and if you’re having sex with someone who’s drunk, then chances are good that something will go wrong (which can sometimes lead to injuries).
- If your partner is under the influence of drugs like marijuana or cocaine (or any other kind), don’t have sex with them either unless both parties agree beforehand that there won’t be any problems…and even then only after making sure no one gets hurt 🙂
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Use lotion or lubricant on your penis and/or vagina.
Now that you’re ready for the big game, it’s time to think about how you can make your sex life even more passionate. The first step is using lotion or lubricant on your penis and/or vagina. There are lots of different types of lubes available at drugstores and online; some are water-based, others silicone-based and still others oil-based. It doesn’t matter which kind you use as long as it stays where it belongs—in between you two!
Oil-based lubes can cause irritation if they get into the sensitive area around your anus or vulva (the external female genitalia). Water-based lubricants may not be as safe for anal play but they’re still fairly safe overall compared with other types like silicone or emulsified petroleum jelly (commonly called Vaseline). Oil based products are also great because they provide extra friction during sex so there’s less chance that one partner will finish before another does! If possible avoid scented lubes since these add chemicals into what should be an intimate act between two individuals who enjoy each other’s company…
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Put music on if you want to, but don’t feel like you have to.
If you want to put on music, go ahead. Don’t feel like you have to listen to something specific though. Maybe it will help set the mood and make sure you both are in the right headspace for slow lovemaking.
If nothing else, using music can be fun! But don’t let it become an expectation or requirement—if someone doesn’t like music during sex, then don’t use it!
Arousal and excitement are different for everyone.
It’s important to realize that arousal and excitement are two different things. You can’t get excited about being aroused, but you can be excited by desire—and that’s a different thing entirely!
Some people are more aroused by touch, while others prefer visual stimulation (like watching porn or playing with your partner in the sack). Some people find their sexual energy through partners’ voices, smells or even what they’re wearing on top of their bodies; other people might need some alone time before getting it going again!
There are many ways for each person to have fun with their sex life; once you find one that works for both of you (and doesn’t lead down paths like “I need this” or “Why don’t we try something new?”), stick with it!
Don’t worry about erections and orgasms.
- Don’t worry about erections and orgasms.
- If you’re having sex, don’t worry about how long it lasts or how many times you come. That is not important in the grand scheme of things—or at least it shouldn’t be!
- Don’t try to have sex every single night; we all need sleep after all (and sex does take a toll on our bodies). And if something feels off during the day, it doesn’t mean that your partner needs to do anything differently tomorrow night…unless there was an emergency (e.g., pregnancy). So just relax!
Stop before the act of sex in case either person wants to slow down further or speed up a bit.
- Stop before the act of sex in case either person wants to slow down further or speed up a bit.
- If you want to slow down, then do so. If you want to speed up, then do so. Don’t feel pressured by anything just because someone else is doing it differently than you are comfortable with at that moment in time.
Remember that there’s no one “right” way to have sex with your partner, so stop comparing yourself to other couples or people you’ve been with in the past.
The first step to having passionate sex is to stop comparing yourself to other people. Don’t worry about what your partner did in the past or what other people are doing now—focus on the present, and make sure that you’re doing everything you can for both of your bodies!
In addition to this, try not to worry about how something will turn out. If something feels good at first but then becomes uncomfortable later on or even hurts too much, don’t worry about it! You should always feel free enough in any relationship (with your partner) so that if things aren’t working out as well as they could be, then those bad feelings don’t last long enough for either one of them (you and them) which could lead into an unhealthy relationship altogether.
If you’re nervous, don’t fake confidence; just be honest, and let your partner know that you’re excited to be with them even if things aren’t always perfect or as planned.
If you’re nervous, don’t fake confidence; just be honest. This is the best way to show that you’re excited to be with them even if things aren’t always perfect or as planned. Instead of focusing on performance or being self-conscious about how you look during lovemaking sessions, focus on giving each other pleasure rather than performance or being self-conscious about how you look during lovemaking sessions.
Focus on giving each other pleasure rather than performance or being self-conscious about how you look during lovemaking sessions. Takeaway: You can have really great sex without all the pressure and stress that goes along with it!
It’s important to remember that sex is not a performance, and it can be difficult to get into the mindset of focusing on both giving and receiving pleasure. You may feel like you have to do everything right or else your partner won’t be satisfied. In reality, there are many ways for us as humans (and especially women!) to feel good during sex:
- Focus on being present with your partner rather than thinking about the past or future; this means focusing on what’s happening right now! We may have been hurt in the past by someone else’s actions during intimacy, but we should never let those feelings stop us from enjoying ourselves with our current lover/friend/partner…unless of course they’re toxic people in which case we should probably stay away from them entirely because no one ever wins when dealing with such toxic relationships!
Conclusion
If you want to have better sex, there’s no need to wait until you’re married! Just remember that it may take practice to get good at any kind of activity or skill, so don’t worry if it takes some time for your body or mind to change. The more relaxed and open you are with each other in bed (and out of it!), the more likely you’ll be able to have great sex and enjoy each other’s company.
If you’re ever feeling nervous or insecure about your sex life, don’t be afraid to talk it over with your partner! They’ll probably be happy to know that they’ve got someone as awesome as you in their life.
